How can we introduce God to others if He isn’t truly living within us being continually projected outward to the world? Telling people about God is meaningless if we don’t demonstrate God. Words without actions will not work.
Surely, I am not alone in having loved ones that are unsaved despite all our prayers, arguing and pleading with them. Like many, I have a spouse. That statement alone should immediately create a picture for anyone previously or currently married. The only variance is the gender perception. Rather than gender, what truly separates the perceptions/reactions is the foundation of faith and its outward example to the world, especially our loved ones.
Those of you unfamiliar; that means that despite what you personally believe is the best plan/choice based on personality traits, historical patterns or results in the same or similar situations you choose to encourage, support and LOVINGLY go along with the decisions/choices of your spouse despite the personal alarms. Call it compromise, call it giving in or being submissive/whipped the result is the same when it comes from a place of love. Love, per the definition of GOD, is not easily provoked (patient). That means biting your tongue, walking away at times, taking a deep breath and rising above the situation/circumstance to react in Love (or at the very least kindness, depending on serious the catalyst until Love resurfaces). And if by chance the result is unpleasant or negative; you do not utter a single “I told you so” ever regardless of the times it occurs. Why? Because according to your Creator, Love is forgiving and does not keep records of wrong doings (which is envy). Showing God’s love means everyone gets a clean slate EVERY time if you truly love them unless God personally says otherwise.
By now several of you reading this may be saying things like, “what if the other person is abusive, mean, ect…” or “how could he/she stay with them, they’re not good for her/him, etc.….” I’m not making light of any of this, I’m been there. Love forgives by never assuming the worst every time. God forgives us continually. Because when we want God to completely forgive us for every little terrible thing to minor incident/thought that was unpleasing to Him hourly/daily/continually (depending on your walk with Him) and never be held accountable for it eternally, then wouldn’t we offer the same to our loved ones? When you are truly walking with Him, there is no middle ground or gray area. Right is right. Wrong is wrong. Repetitive wrong will NEVER be right, the Lord will press on His beloved to leave/walk away; but he cannot go against our own free will despite all the prayers and pleas of others. If free will gets someone into a mess, despite His efforts, that person will also be accountable for ALL the end consequences of their freely chosen path. He stays. WE move. God loves ALL of us. God is our Father and as a Father He will always stand with His children, especially those in personal relationship with Him continually. It’s not preferential love; it’s equal love shown in reaction to that child in that exact moment. As a parent, we love of all our children, without exception. But let’s all be honest, there are times we may not like them very much and sometimes that may be the same child repetitively. We love them. We just don’t actively enable negative choices/behaviors. Love does not push itself forward and love sometimes suffers long and yet is still kind.
So, here’s the thing…. if I want someone that I love very much to be saved, to know the God that I know. For them to receive the forgiveness, grace and spirit of God in their life; it should first be seen by them in MY life. I can’t always react in my old self, not if I’m genuinely trying to walk with my heavenly Father. Like a moth to flame, God’s light within us can draw our lost loved ones to Him but only when that light is continually shining bright towards the world. Know why you keep doing it? Because Love never fails.
“Bear all things, believe all things, hope all things, endure all things. Love never fails” – II Corinthians 13: 7
Time is no longer our ally. We can’t just sit around waiting for God to do all the heavy lifting while we wring our hands and cry, pleading in prayer for someone’s salvation. Give it to God and go do your part too. Show God to people. Be that weirdo that always has a gentle, kind demeanor to everyone, the person that see the positive in things instead of commiserating in negativity, be the person that in the worst of situations others turn to for guidance, help, and prayer. How can we ever expect someone to genuinely want to be introduced to God, if they don’t really see anything of Him in us?
I’m just saying before you jump on the band wagon in gossip, before you react with words or actions of anger/other negative emotions and feelings- stop. Breathe deeply and fill your lungs with spirit of God before doing or saying anything else. Make sure you are not reacting to the very things/failings you carry too. Come back and react in TRUE love. The light of God’s love through you will draw them to salvation.
“and though I give all my goods to feed the poor and though I give my body to be burned, and have not love, it profits me nothing. Love suffers long, AND is kind; love does not envy; love does not push itself forward, does not behave unseemly, does not seek its own way, is not easily provoked and is not ready to suspect evil”
II Corinthians 13:3-5 (KJV)
If you are struggling or in conflict with someone you love, ask yourself if you are showing them the God you are wanting them so desperately to meet. If you aren’t, then stop wasting your time with words to them because they are meaningless. Demonstrate God in your life first.